To live the life you desire, you must be willing to face your own darkness.
Just as a caterpillar must enter a dark chrysalis to transform into a butterfly, you, too, must be willing to confront your past traumas—and the darkness within—if you wish to emerge as a new, stronger version of yourself.
Many people struggle to live the life they dream of because they are unwilling to face the darkness within.
And I get it. This process can feel incredibly uncomfortable. Many of us have gone through very difficult experiences, and for those who have faced deep trauma, revisiting those moments can be excruciating.
But doing so is necessary if you want to live the life you’ve always wanted.
For this process to work, we must give ourselves the time and space to go into our own darkness. It involves feeling emotions we may have avoided for a long time. Rushing the process will only prolong it.
As we go through this journey, parts of ourselves that may have been long neglected—inner children, teenagers, or other versions of ourselves—will begin to show up and express their needs. For more information on this, check out my video on Internal Family Systems (Parts Work): Watch here.
As you spend time with and nurture these parts of yourself, you might start feeling impatient. You might wonder, “Why am I not healed yet?”
But you can’t rush this process. For many of us, it involves processing trauma that has kept us in loops for years.
If you’re in the middle of your own metamorphosis right now, trust that if you allow yourself the time and space to move through it, you will come out stronger on the other side. And even if it takes time, when you’ve made it through, you’ll know it. But you have to get through the chrysalis phase first, as difficult as it may be.
Trust that, if you experience it fully, you’ll come out on the other side stronger and more whole. You’ll be glad you had the patience to stay in your chrysalis for as long as it took.
Every truly successful person must go through their own metamorphosis. There’s no way around it.
Sure, some people achieve external success without facing this inner process. However, when they get what they thought they wanted, they often find themselves unsatisfied. That’s because they were pursuing success from a wounded place—seeking something outside of themselves (a job, a relationship, etc.) to feel whole and complete.
To truly feel whole and complete, you must accept yourself fully. And that means embracing all parts of you—even the parts that are holding on to shame, fear, guilt, and self-doubt. These are the parts that experienced the trauma in the first place.
Becoming our authentic selves requires reparenting and healing the trauma we’ve experienced. While some may reach external success without doing this inner work, it’s only a matter of time before the deeper, unresolved issues rise to the surface.
For example, many people who achieve success from a place of unworthiness might look at what they’ve built and ask, “Is this all there is?”They are never truly satisfied, and oftentimes, it takes a tragedy in their lives to prompt them to go within.
You must go through your own metamorphosis—just like the butterfly. Trust the process, and don’t rush yourself. Don’t try to bypass it.If you accept your metamorphosis, transformation will happen. One day, you’ll wake up and realize your wings have formed, and it’ll be only a matter of time before you take flight.
The first step to successfully going through a personal metamorphosis is recognizing that you’re in one. So if you’ve made it this far in the article, that’s a good sign you’re already in the midst of one.
For more information on this subject, check out this video: Watch here.
While many people can go through the healing process on their own, many find they need support along the way.
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